today in what the fuck news:
I might be graduating with honors?
Between the cat climbing the stairs for the first time to sit and meow at my door and the silly rock doves
flying into landing on open but screened off window ledge, I am starting to feel like a god damn Disney princess.
- men get into something not aimed at their gender: get special titles like "brony." recognition by creators. heralded for defying gender appeal. get documentary.
- women get into something not aimed at their gender: not real fans. probably secret friend zone warriors deadset on erasing men from the human race. get insulting demeaning memes and sexual harassment.
- you know, I've been running this through my head for a few days since I liked it on a gut instinct and while it is true for men with Bronies, I can't seem to come up with other examples? Men who like other things created for women are assumed to be less manly and gay, which opens a whole 'nother bag of worms. Musicals? Clearly gay. Chickflicks? Whipped/ only doing it to get laid. What is the cool nickname for dudes who like Gilmore Girls? Dresses?
- The only thing that even comes close is "metrosexual" which again, is commenting on sexuality and is sued as an insult as much as a compliment. That is a term not for fans, but for men who care about appearance.
- As far as women, this is much more true across the board. And that sucks.
- But I think, other than MLP, I really can't think of anything where a large group defies the gender norm and is welcomed. Either male or female
And then there’s Spike.
He apologises for the Buffybot; he openly admits that he’s a monster. After his assault on Buffy, the first thing he does is try to redeem himself, because unlike every other man she’s ever slept with, he admits he’s done something wrong, and that he, Spike, is the culprit. And it’s not silent redemption, either: the guilt drives him mad, and when he comes back at the start of S7, not only the audience, but Buffy herself is left in no doubt that what he’s done – regaining his soul – has been an act of atonement: that he’s given himself a conscience, punished himself physically and mentally, and returned with no expectation of forgiveness to offer what help he can. And that, I think, despite everything, is at the core of why I keep coming back to Buffy and Spike’s relationship, why I can’t let go of it: as brutally fucked up as their history is, and despite the fact that Spike’s assault is arguably* the worst thing any partner has ever done to her, he’s also the only parter to accept responsibility for his actions, and to try and directly atone for them. Spike learns because of Buffy; he becomes a better man – or a better monster – through loving her, and I don’t think that’s true of any of the others; even Angel.— literally the best summary of the Buffy/Spike relationship I have ever read, and I’ve read an almost shameful amount of Spuffy meta. (via katwithcomputer)
Read the whole post through the link. it is worth it.
can someone do some fact checking on this for me?
no no no NO NO
thor is not blinded by his love for loki. thor is not blinded by loki. thor is not blinded by his brother and has no doubts about what his brother is and can do and is capable of and willing to do anymore
that is the entire point of his arc in the avengers
he knows what loki is at this point - he knows his brother is cruel and manipulative and burning and fraying inside and pulling apart inside of himself with hatred and with love with power and with chaos. he knows loki will burn asgard to the ground if he got a chance, grind earth into the dust for a laugh, throw thor from the skies and stick a knife in his side to make himself temporarily relieved of the ugliness he feels inside
he just doesn’t care
he knows what loki is. when he stops in the cage and looks at the man he called brother he realizes in that instant the enormity of the chasm between them, the eternity of loki’s fall, and that loki and his brother are no longer the same person and maybe had not been for centuries; but when he falls to the ground he flexes his hand and decides to bring that man called loki home anyway, because the last time he let him go loki turned into someone unrecognizable, and this time he is going to forge a new love and a new man out of the ashes of what had come before, even if he has to burn himself through to do it
he knows what loki is. he knows the risk. he knows he is harboring an enemy that will kill his friends and burn his home if he doesn’t stand guard at night with a knife but he decides, in that instant on earth, that the risk is worth it.
#no thor is not blindly loyal he had never been blindly loyal #once he had been blindly in love but now he has learnt to see clearly because he lost his eyes and ears and had to kingmake himself #he knows exactly what he is doing and what he is risking and exactly how far it can fall and how hot it can burn; he just doesn’t care (ilvalentinos)
#fuck a fandom thor #thor is terrifying and brilliant and elemental; and is all about stripping away what makes him weak or lesser from his bones #he’s building in checks and balances; knows his impulsivity is a weakness; and adapts against it #that makes him way more terrifying than loki; because thor can change; thor can adapt and become ever more powerful in himself #but the one thing thor will never be able to unmake or strip is his love for loki #it doesn’t blind him; he’s hyper aware of it; and of what loki is #and that’s so much worse; that he knows; and he loves anyway #that loki is the one thing that can make thor act selfishly; that will cause thor to realign and shift his stratagems #it’s not blind love; it’s a clear-eyed unyeilding inescapable kind of love #but thor just doesn’t care; because no matter what; loki is the one thing he won’t ever let go again #and that; that is terrifying as fuck in a being as powerful both inherently and hierarchially as thor #the one core thing in his being that thor will not abandon or shed for honour or asgard or anything he believes#and what i want most; what we’ve already seen happening in the trailer #is thor weaponizing that weakness in himself; weaponizing the object of his love with clear eyes for just what loki is #he knows he can’t change loki; he’s not blind to loki’s nature #and he can’t let loki go #so he’ll fucking use him as a weapon then #and that’s vicious and tragic; this is a bloody shakespearian tragedy of obsessive love and the competing demands of the throne #thor is not your fandom puppy dog; he’s a self-aware self-ascending adaptive king stripping all the gilt and illusion from his bones (okayophelia)
okay, but he is also a puppy dog, lets be real - he is driven by love and loyalty. He grows and changes, which is great, but he is still full of hope and unbridaled passion and drive which is what makes him NOT Loki. Thor is about love and that is why he learns that he was wrong, and why he can apologies and why he has room in his heart for more than one realm. I think some of these people are forgetting that Thor would never, ever let how much he cares for Loki turn him into Loki- and but that is exactly what Loki is trying to pull. T